Thursday, January 27, 2011

The Bridge between positive and negative

In Business, most people focus on what can't get done, rather than on what can get done. They handicap themselves mentally by telling themselves, "I can't get the guy on the phone. No one will return my call. No one will hire me. I overslept. I forgot. I didn't write it down. No one told me." And then they go into excuse mode by saying, "I didn't have enough time." Or pathetically, :I am doing the best I can"

Think about how you'd feel if someone brought you the same circumstances that you're whining about. Would you want to listen, or would you want to avoid this person at all costs? that answer is obvious. But there's a better answer, and it lies in your ability "to be or not to be" positive. (that is the question.) If you focus on the negative - the results will likely be negative. If you focus on positive anticipation and positive results will follow.

1. Stop blaming circumstances for your. situation It's not the rain, or the car, or the phone, or the product - it's YOU. You have a choice in everything you do. Choose a better way. Don't blame the situation, change the situation.

2. Stop blaming other people for your situation. Take responsibility for yourself and your actions. If you are consistently blaming other people, guess what, Bubba, get over it - it ain't them.

3. Know your customer or prospect better. Knowing your customer is just as powerful to prevent problems as it is to handle them. If you can't get the prospect on the phone, it's your fault for not knowing the best time to reach him. Know the right time to call. Know when a decision is to be made. Double confirm every commitment.

4. Persist until you gain an answer. A prospect will respect a tenacious salesperson. If it takes five to ten exposures to make a sale, do you have what it takes to hang in there? Even if it's "No," at least you know where you stand.

5. Know where you are, or where you should be. Manage your time. Have lunch with a customer, not a friend. Keep perfect records. Know enough about your prospect or customer that follow-up becomes easy and fun. Are you organized enough to get to the tenth exposure and have the situation under control enough to make the sale?

6. Work on your skills every day. Books, CDs, seminars. You can never read enough books or listen to enough CDs. I challenge you to do it for an hour a day. One hour a day, seven days a week, for one year, is equal to more than nine full weeks of work. The next time you mindlessly turn on the TV, think about what you could be doing to improve your focus and knowledge base.

7. Become solution oriented. Instead of griping or wallowing in your problems, why not spend the same amount of time working on solutions? Being solution oriented has done for me and my path to success than any single strategy. Evert obstacle presents an opportunity - if you're looking for it. If you're too busy concentration on the problem, the opportunity will pass you by.

7.5 Think before talking. People speak without thinking, only to regret what they said. Every time you are about to engage someone else, think quickly about what is it you are about to say. How will the words received? And what else could you be saying that might create a more positive expression? The goal is a positive response or result. The action seems simple, but it requires the most self discipline. Try it a few times - you'll be amazed at the results.

ATTITUDE OPPORTUNITY: You've been given a bag of cement and a bucket of water. You can either build a stumbling block (a concrete barrier), or a stepping stone (a bridge to wherever you want to go)

Monday, September 27, 2010

270910

在这里谢谢她,不然我也停止生产了。最近的我,忙的不亦乐乎,讲的明目点,就是做的连狗都不如。

但这是我选择的,听起来怪怪的,好像雄心勃勃却也挺心虚。
我有点迷失自己,想找倾诉的人却。。。

有点虚弱的感觉。很想放弃,一堆责任变成我的,同事说我太好人,将来兵挡,没有不字。但是也真 她妈的,不能做事就不要霸占,不要每天做小人,害我这样累。

她,最近很忙,很压力。身为她的支柱,我尽力压抑爱哭的自己。不能陪在她身边是我的失职,唯一能做的是听她发泄。但,我能向谁哭述能?!



原来,我不是超人。。。
虽然暂时这样,但是我心中那把火是不会灭的。。。

Wednesday, July 28, 2010

28/07/10

纷飞的思念,飞蛾般无法自我。
自我是我认识的我吗?!还是你认识的我呢?!
潜意识般朝着我的太阳向前进。
我会因此而焚身吗?!

独自回家,还好有你的声音配回荡,
刮破了那刺耳的孤寂声。
手无缚鸡之力的被你包裹着,
选择了这条路,喜欢你就是喜欢你。

我写了一些回忆:
他她间隔的距离,是不能单单靠着声音来做扶持。
他她都要有个人能看得到,能接触得到,这是他她对爱的固执。
但,是你,是我的选择。

Sunday, June 13, 2010

13/06/10

越来越自私了,好想把你占为己有。
明白这是不对的,但是就是控制不了自己。
控制不了越来越爱你,越来越需要你的陪伴,
记得,不要爱我比我爱你得更多,我不想看到你的伤心。。。。。

我并不能为你承诺任何事情,我只能以行动证明我的一切。
但是答应你的,我一定会做到。
很多的考验即将面临,但是只要有我在,不要担心。
我不相信命,我们会有我们的蓝天。。。。。

对你说过我是不认输的人,但是我也曾跌到过。
让我走出阴霾的是你。。。。。
谢谢你,把浪子给拉回来。
谢谢你,把空虚变得真实。

热恋吧,跌落的红豆,一颗一颗充满着实实在在的想念。
红豆树正在慢慢的成长,我们也慢慢的成长。。。。。
树上所累积的果实是我们的明天,粗壮的树干紧紧连悉你我。
风儿翩翩起舞,祝福这恋人。。。。。

星期几的宝宝

Monday Woman
星期一出生的女性,温柔、敏感、喜爱幻想,而且柔情似水。
这样的女性,极具包容性,个性上十分宽宏大量,眼光也看得十分远,不会因为一些小事而耿耿於怀。
她懂得适时做出让步,甚至牺牲自己,成就他人,也甘之如饴。
这类型的女性,贤淑可****,思想趋於传统。不过这种女性,也有内心坚强的一面。
强而有力的性格,经常透过母性精神而崭露出来,所以是那种临危不乱,在困苦和多变的环境中,反而能更勇敢坚定的人。
这样的女性,喜欢和谐,对於生活的要求十分随兴,
没有野心勃勃的自我要求和对外的企图心。她很容易受外界的气氛感染,心思十分敏锐,也能关注到他人的需要。

Friday Man
星期五出生的男人,天生便具备著近乎艺术家的气质。
这种男性的魅力无法挡,一举手一投足之间,都散发了十足的男人味,让女性无法抗拒。
他们真心,个性平和,尽管温柔体贴,却绝不滥情。
因此当他们说爱你的时候,就是最真挚的告白,不会是开开玩笑或儿戏。
这一天出生的男人,是很典型的居家男子,他在感情的收放上,比较倾向於女性似的善感和细心。
对於园艺、家事及烹饪都会有浓厚的兴趣。
与这种男子的相处要诀是,开朗大方的接受他所付出一切,聆听他想说的,多待在家中,看看电视,聊聊天,或者从事一些共同的兴趣(如烹饪),
减少外出人挤人的不适和疲累。当然如果能凡事采取主动,省去他腼腆犹豫,爱情的效率会更高,感情的进展也会一日千里。

Friday, May 28, 2010

28/05/10

开始想念了,模糊的影子也清晰了。
原来不是别人,就是你。
不是你侵入我的心房,而是我想融入你的生活。

还没勇气向你告白,我爱你,这话太沉重了。
但是是你,你是我的快乐。。。。。。

沉重的不再沉重。。。。。

她是唯一能让我心脏同时间加速与放慢的女人。
当我不跟她在一起的时候,我好像并不存在的。
只有再次的牵着她的手,我才有活着的感觉。。。。。。

Sunday, May 9, 2010

喝醉

我喝醉了,念了好多好多三字经,好高兴也很伤心。
高兴因为我很久没有这样了,伤心因为有人陪我念。。。。
我的好朋友们啊,有了女友就不骂粗话了,被他们的女人给训练到的。。。
但是我们这么久了,见面终难免会念嘛,这属于我们的习俗。。。。

很久也没有这样的感觉了,感觉对了敢敢向人告白。。。。
哈哈哈,我还是老样子,勇敢直冲啊。。。。
不懂失败还是成功,....

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我成功了 ^_^。。。。。。。。。
14/5/10